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Being an educationist I am often asked what the right age to send a child to playschool is. Parents also ask how they can pick the best school for their child. Here are the answers!

"Our society has been hypnotised into believing that a student who is successful in school will be successful in life, and although this may occasionally be true, the opposite is not necessarily false." - Alec Sahakian

This is part 3 of a series on parenting styles. Part 1 is here. and part 2 is here.

Remember the parent's role essayed by Anupam Kher in the movie DDLJ or the one by Kiran Kher in Hum Tum? Both of them are affectionate parents who guide their children through life. They do not lead their lives for them but are their pillars of strength. Such parents are able to bring out the best in their children. Children of such parents are confident, strong, and self-assured individuals. They are able to establish meaningful relationships in their lives.

This is part 2 of a series on parenting styles. Part 1 of this series is here.

Your role as a parent begins once a child enters your life, and most fathers and mothers usually develop their own styles of parenting. Every type of parenting style has its own reasons and consequences. But what I would like to emphasise is that each of these styles also has subconscious undercurrents guiding it. This is what we need to be aware of. I will leave you to decide what your style of parenting is. You may find that your parenting style is a mix of many. But the bigger question is - are you aware of how your style is affecting the subconscious mind of your child?

Let me start with the most common question parents have: "Is parenting an inborn talent?"

My mother believes that the parents of today tend to overthink the process of parenting. "Why in the world does a mother need a guide to be a parent? A mother learns to care and nurture by herself. It's natural," she says. She strongly believes that parenting guides give so much information that young parents get confused. Ask any grandma in the family and you will get the best tips from her. When I was a new mum, perhaps my own support systems were laid on similar lines. Then why am I canvassing for the "how to parent" industry?

In an increasingly globalizing world, a child in India not only celebrates Diwali but also Halloween. A child in Australia not only celebrates Christmas but also experiences Diwali. Road signs in Western countries read "Diversion ahead due to Ganesh Chaturthi procession." The great thing about this is that it promotes an understanding and hopefully a tolerance of other cultures, rituals, ceremonies and traditions. In a world where intolerance and religious disputes are rife, teaching children about other cultures and their festivals can help build a more peaceful world. This will only hold true, however, if we bring the depth of understanding to the rituals that festivals are marked by.

"Time - out" is something that we've either experience or doled out, most likely both. Let's define it first - time - out is essentially social exclusion that is imposed on children as a form of behavioural modification. As the Wikipedia definition says, "It involves temporarily separating a child from an environment where unacceptable behaviour occurred.

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