Understanding your child's mental development is an important part of parenting, especially during the first five years of a child's life.

The Harvard University Center on the Developing Child's report stresses that the first five years of a child's life are crucial for mental development, which begins at birth.

Here are some tips to help you understand your preschooler better as a parent -

1. Be Your Child's Best Friend

Your child should be able to trust you fully with their feelings and emotions, and you have to do the same. Hence the child needs to see a friend in you. So, let them know that they can talk to you about anything and everything.

2. Spend Quality Time with Your Child

The best way to understand a child better is to spend quality time with them, play with them, and engage them in activities that they love like reading or painting. Your child wants to spend time with you- they need you.

3. Listen to your child

Give your full attention when your child is talking. It helps your child to develop their trust in you and build a stronger bond. Most researchers state that when a child feels listened to, they are more likely to listen to you.

4. Take an Opinion

Remember that your child have their own likes and dislikes, their own strengths and weaknesses, and their own ideas and opinions. While they may share some similarities with you, they're still unique. Encourage your child to share their views on things, never shut them down. It is best for them to express.

5. Don't Be Too Curious

While you want to understand your child better, you shouldn't be too curious about what they're doing all the time. Let them enjoy their childhood, and let them explore their creativity. Let them make mistakes, and let them learn from them.

6. Think Like Them

Thinking like your child while talking or doing an activity will help builds a sense of familiarity in your child. It will also help you avoid making assumptions and filling in the gaps with what you already think they know.

7. Discover the Reasons Behind Their Behaviour

If your child is behaving in a certain way, don't jump to conclusions. Behaviour is driven by many factors, and your child may have a reason behind their behaviour that you may not have considered.

When you understand the reasons behind your child's behaviour, they'll feel understood and important. They'll feel your care about them, and they'll feel more connected to you.


It's easier to check on your child's physical growth, but it gets really challenging to understand their mental growth especially in their first 5 years.

The key is to read their cues, their moods, and their actions. Remember that you are not alone. The key is to keep trying.

Kangaroo Kids' fantastic infrastructure, well researched, planned and executed curriculum design within an emotionally safe environment encourages children to reflect, think and apply while having lots of fun. We believe in making a child's first 5 years count!